Rediscovering Love : A Journey of reclaiming myself and family relationships

• Main Authors: WU,BO-YI, 吳博毅
• Other Authors: XIE,WEN-YI
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2016
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/sfm6cg

碩士 === 實踐大學 === 家庭研究與兒童發展學系家庭諮商與輔導碩士班 === 104 === The current self-narrative research aims to explore the relations of researcher’s family of origin. Through the narrative writing process, looking back and forth between the experiences, and the texts and interpretations, the narrator gained a deeper understanding of the interactions between the narrator and the his family members. The early stage of the narrative writing process was full of anger and blaming. These voices evoked the experience of being neglected in the childhood and it affected deeply on my intimate relationships. Narrative writing allows me to use new perspective to see my family. I saw each family member is trying their best to protect and take care of this family, but no one sees the efforts that others have made, which let the family working in a dysfunctional way. This discovery broke the illusion that I am the only one made the effort for this family; in fact, everyone is using their own way to work for this family. I tried to use different points of view to reunderstand my family members, especially to my mother. I discovered many things I have not known in the past, and it broke my prejudice against my family. I am now willing to try new ways to interact with my family and looking forward to developing new connection with them. At the same time, I see my limitations; I need more time to prepare myself to face the upcoming events. It is a process that I am going through. The whole self-narrative writing process helped me to gain more understandings of my family and to gain more insights of myself. It lets me know how deep the connection of my family is and this connection is not a chain. Now I am able to use a whole new perspective to see this family, to release the role I used to play, and to live my own life.