| Summary: | 碩士 === 玄奘大學 === 應用心理學系碩士班 === 104 === The author is composing this paper mostly to describe the feelings and opinions generated from the experience of growing accompanied by the author's grandfather and taking care of each other, presenting various themes herein related to grandfather, the author and things happened between grandfather and the author and representing such feelings and opinions based on attending to experience, telling about experience and analyzing experience. The paper contains both narration and analysis as a whole, presenting the period of about thirty years from the very beginning to when the author's grandfather passed. The author explores his past and present, explain different thoughts arising from the same matter, as well as depicting appearance at the level of emotion and feeling. In addition, the paper aims to explore into background elements of the course of grandfather's aging and is composed based on the author's memory, reference to relevant documents and record and communication with family members and relatives concerned.
According to Andersen（2012）and Li（2011）, the elderly do better than the young in many ways, which goes against common stereotypes about aging and accords with aging course of the author's grandfather as he observes. The result of this study is derived from the paper. Through the companionship with my grandfather, I am able to witness the life journey of an old man who goes through his prime, gradually becomes less physically flexible, and ends up with being taken care of by others. Though being restricted in many ways, he remains earnest and positive in his life. The caregiver and care-receiver are interdependent under such an attachment, for even though the elder is cared and helped by others, he is still the most important pillar in the family, with heartfelt love for his family members and sisters and brothers in the church. The study also finds that neither the author nor his grandfather finds it easy to tell how much they love each other, which is influenced by the potential values and concepts and which has been mentioned many times in this study.
The author receives direct influence from his grandfather who offers both personal experience and verbal instructions during the author’s growth, and this study is going to illustrate such influence in four aspects, namely, value judgment, responsibility undertaking, family values and interpersonal interaction. As of today, such influence roots deeply in the author’s mind, becoming an important reference for how I behave and treat people around, and some of which has automatically become my habits and shape my character. Apart from exerting influence on others, aging, in and of itself, is a stage for a person to look back on his/her life, just as Marc (2012) remarked: “When we step into our old age, the lessons about life cycle before turn into those of aging. The past will never disappear, for the people we met, the places we have been to and the experience we have had will be with us, in whatever forms it may be.”
In conclusion, this study consists of two parts, the experience of accompanying and growth and inspiration of the author himself, with an attempt to refer to past references. The paper is composed to ponder upon emotional orientation of both the author and his grandfather as well as the impact thereof based on the precious experience of the author being accompanied by his grandfather for nearly thirty years. It further presents daily life, dietary habits, interpersonal communication and religions of the author's grandfather in his late adulthood as well as the author's care for physical and mental health of his grandfather. Presentation herein reveals additional gains, namely the healing effect on the author's pain of losing a close family member and continuous positive impact. During the composition of this paper, I obtained many unexpected benefits, such as strengthening my inner self and developing self-awareness and enlightenment in the course of recalling and re-constructing.
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