| Summary: | 博士 === 國立彰化師範大學 === 輔導與諮商學系所 === 103 === The main purpose of this research was to explore the grief and continuing bonds experience of the middle age conjugal loss female by using Hermeneutic phenomenological methodology. Specifically, this study is to answer three questions: (1) the grief experience of middle age women with conjugal loss; (2) the experience of continuing bonds; (3) the experience of their relationship transformation bring the grief adjustment. Six participants, aged of 41 to 60 years old, death of spouse between 1 to 5 years, and at least live with spouse before death more than 3 years.
The study found marital relationship link two people to become a community of life, and complete a home accepted and praised with Chinese traditional culture. Death of a spouse break intimacy relationship, participants faced economic difficulties; deal with heavy house ware and raising children alone, raising children may be hard, but also as a support to accompany them through bereavement.
The essences of grief for conjugal loss is “empty” and “incompleteness”, which may extend contents of lonely, guilt, regret, loss of self, home incompleteness, etc. In addition to the negative sentiment, participants also realize the fragility of life and cherish the people around. They also exert potential, to face the future life with more confident and flexible during burden heavy life load alone.
The believe of deaded husband still alive in another existence at another place, make continuing bonds possible. Relocate the virtue existence by symbol of husband as the link object. Link or unlink, participants have their own reasons, but through the links media provided by cultural or religious, such as dreams, psychic, throwing cups, worship, and so on, let the continuing bonds actually work. The diseased still alive in heart, and then grief can be remedied.
Successful relationship transformation between life and death must accept the fact of death, and maintain positive continuing bonds. Through continuing bonds, the middle age widows continue to have solace and support, resolve regret and guilt, sustain a sense of self, and virtually complete the incomplete home, the integrity and perfection can be regained. As time pass away, not all participants carved for reconnecting the diseased, they can also be used to and slowly accept the integrity with single person alone.
Keyworsd: conjugal loss, grief, continuing bonds, grief adjust
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