| Summary: | 碩士 === 國立彰化師範大學 === 輔導與諮商學系所 === 102 === The objective of the research is to collect dyadic data of the couples by using the narrative method, based on the object relationship theory, in order to understand the experience among the codependent couples in the development of their close relationship and the psychodynamics of their interaction pattern during the relationship. Three couples are interviewed during the research process, age between 25 and 35, the time in the relationship range from half to seven years.
The result shows that, important experiences within the development of the close relationship between the codependent couples include: 1. Relationship begin with the offering and acceptance of the devotion 2.The status of being close to each other makes the object aware its existence 3. The object feels degradation and lost while experiencing split and being hurt 4.The status of the relationship shifts between existence and degradation 5. Dependency and appreciation maintain the relationship.
The psychodynamic aspects of the changing interaction patterns include: 1. The status of the codependent person: 1). I’m bad, I’m useless 2).self shifts between all good and all bad. 2. The status of the partner 1). rarely express his or her emotion 2). tend to deal with its emotion by “pause”. 3. The interaction pattern and the psychological dynamics: The situation while the male need aid and the female being attracted,include want the one who does not love me to love me, projective attraction. The situation while the female devote intensively and the male is atracte, include the feeling of being an important one. The situation while the female trying to tighten the relationship and the male trying to adjust its position, include lack of security urges the object to tighten the relationship, project the psychological need to the partner, the qualification of being loved depends on devotion, in an intention of keeping the relationship, the object intensively reassure the partner, The clarity of the boundary determined the effect of behavior, The emotional status shifts between oppression and relaxation, Projective identification process formed by both parties of the couple, Depending on the partner without realizing its self. Specifically, this study trying to use depathologizing perspective, back to the context of interpersonal process to realize codependent couple’s trauma in early objective relations, how to repair in the present close relationship, and how to gradually grow up in back and forth repair process.
Base on the above findings , several recommendations and suggestions for the future studies and the conducting of counseling practices are given.
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