情感關係中女性失去自我的經驗與自我的轉化

• Main Author: 曾素真
• Other Authors: 陳秉華
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2010
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/84647186401259246412

碩士 === 國立臺灣師範大學 === 教育心理與輔導學系 === 99 === The research was aimed to study women’s experiences of self loss and self-transformation in relationships, and to analyze: (1) the experiences of women’s self lost in their relationships (2) the self-transforming experience in the process of relationships for women who experienced self loss in relationships (3) the cultural comprehension of women’s experiences in relationships. And it was expected that women’s experiences in relationships could be perceptible and understood by themselves, society, and those sharing the same experiences. The research was based on four interviewees selected from invitations and questionnaires for their profound emotional experiences in relationships. Data were analyzed by grounded theory and found: 1. The experiences of women’s self lost in their relationships There were five common points found: A) No Perception: it showed that participants “did not perceive problems” and “did not perceive their inside feelings” in their relationships including they “did not perceive their concessions,” “did not perceive their one-way devotion and one-way compromises,” and “ignored their feelings just because other focuses,” “secluded their lives and inside feelings from their relationships,” and “did not realize their feelings.” B) No Expression: Due to their relations or various inside factors in relationships, participants couldn’t express their wills, feelings, and actions including they “couldn’t express themselves,” “constrained themselves,” and “forewent expression helplessly.” That they “couldn’t express themselves” included “no specific idea to express clearly,” “too chaotic to speak,” and “too agitated to speak.” That they “constrained themselves” included “self-constraint after being rejected in feeling and self,” “bother by insecureness and uncertainty,” “compromise by self-constraint,” “compromise because sympathized and cared the other,” “self-constraint to keep women image,” “self-constraint from anger,” “constrain from rejective feelings,” and “introspection, self-requests and self-adjustment.” That they “forewent expression helplessly” reflected all situations that participants had tried but failed, so they gave up to express in relationships. C) Unbalanced Interaction: it reflected that their interactions were unbalanced showing a continuous one side devotion including “to sacrifice for emotional dependency,” “to shoulder and offer continuously while the other was with many excuses,” and “only one side to compromise and yield.” It might have some connections with “no expression” and “no perception.” D) No self-confidence, no self-merit and no self-strength: it reflected that many situations hurt participants’ self-confidence, lessened their self-merit and reduced their self-strength including “to hurt self-merit by being denied and rejected,” “to lose self-strength by self-constraint,” “cannot control their helplessness and powerlessness,” “being frustrate and self-doubt helplessly by unknown reasons,” “being self-doubt and unacceptable in relationships,” “self-perception and feelings were influenced by the other,” “being self-doubt and self-blame for parting,” and “lose self-confidence and self-strength while please the other.” E) No original life: it reflected that participants gave up their original relations and activities, and disordered their works, studies and lives, or was left or given up from relatives. 2. Women’s self-transformation in the process of relationships A) The change of relation with oneself: “to perceive one’s feelings in the process,” “to perceive one’s status in relationships,” “to know and accept oneself more,” and “to reconfirm one’s merit in fatigue.” B) The compromise and change of relation with the other: “to perceive the other more clearly in relationship,” “to perceive interaction more clearly in relationship,” “to perceive and confirm one’s demands and feelings,” “to lessen emotional dependency,” “to clarify one’s bottom line and respect oneself,” “to understand the importance of being oneself in relationships,” “to perceive one’s status in relationships,” “to alert and keep one’s situation in relationships,” “to enrich resources and lessen one’s fear of self-expression,” and “to being oneself and maintain relationship at the same time.” 3. Cultural comprehension of women’s experiences in relationships Participants’ experiences in relationships also reflected the double effects: features of Chinese traditional women self and of western modern psychology. However, as compared with features of western modern psychology, self-expression in relationship was influenced by features of Chinese traditional psychology much more. Besides, most participants’ concepts toward western modern psychology were to expect an intimate interaction in relationships, but to focus on self-expression, which might reflect a fact that to be oneself was submit to pursue relationship that it’s not common. Furthermore, this study also found that participants influenced by traditional culture and western culture have faced more conflicts and challenges in relationships.