The relationship between parents and young children in soldier family

• Main Authors: Yu-Ping Su, 蘇玉萍
• Other Authors: Poh-Hwa Liang
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2011
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/75008217288945951337

碩士 === 朝陽科技大學 === 幼兒保育系碩士班 === 99 === Abstract This study deals primarily with the roles of mothers in soldier’s family, exploring how a mother plays her role, the parent-child relationship and social supporting network of soldier’s family. This qualitative research mainly adopts “semi-structured in-depth interview,” which interviewed eight mothers (who have pre-school children aged 4~8) of soldier’s family. Collected data were analyzed, systemized and concluded as follows: 1.Mothers who play double roles of both mother and father in two-parent family: act as both “a mother who plays multiple roles” as well as “a comforter who pacifies her children when they miss father” as the fathers leave home for work. When the fathers come home from work, the mothers play the role of pushing hands to make the relationship between father and children closer. When the fathers are called for work unexpectedly, mothers become the spiritual support for the family—to make the father not worry about household while at the same time shift children’s attention. 2.Fathers and Mothers Pair up to educate children: the father usually performs his paternal duty through phone-calls, and the building-up of their family relationship is based on “participating in outdoor activities all together,” “being children’s elder playmate,” “satisfying children’s needs materially,” and “communication through asking-and-answering.” Bringing military culture into family is the way soldiers tend to educate their children, such as “the father who can’t take off his military uniform,” “maternal-oriented education,” and “a harsh, demanding mother along with a father expected to be kind and lenient.” 3.Indispensable supporting network: as for emotional support, the mothers usually channel her depression by ways of talking to families and friends. Informational support is offering message like “for the sake of children,” whereas substantial support is keep her company whenever needed. Those who offer support are mostly her relatives with blood relationship, while relatives, classmates and friends of her husband are in the next place.