Lesbian sexuality and intimacy in sexual invitation

• Main Authors: Chih-Chieh Chien, 簡至潔
• Other Authors: Chin-Ju Lin
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2010
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/93747735363341479421

碩士 === 高雄醫學大學 === 性別研究所 === 98 === Sexuality of lesbians is rare among the field of Taiwan’s queer studies. Even it was discussed were limited to among couples. However I have discovered numbers of sexual invitation and activities are conducted at BBS, the major communication media of Taiwan lesbians, therefore I have developed a strong interest and motivation in further discovering these activities. This study has a scope of the practice which is conducted on Taiwan’s lesbian BBS sites. I disclose various types of Taiwan lesbian’s sexual activities and to analyze how these acts subvert and transcend the ideology of monogamy. In my research, I categorize various practices among lesbian invitation into three major segments based on motivations within. First, which happens to be the most common practice is to develop mutual intimacy satisfaction through lover-like practice yet carries no commitment. Secondly, I name it seeking of sexual excitement while the drives lie purely on lust and the curiosity of sex. Last, some sees this practice as an alter way seeking long term relationship. Each story in lesbian invitation reflect the fragile and uncertainty among modern intimacy and reveal the difficulty of seeking balance among freedom and commitment. Exclusive, based on romantic love relationship has been considered the most dreamful practice in lesbian subculture. However during my research, many lesbians become resistant to this Bible-like ideology. They either refuse to enter monogamous relationship or have sex with another person in one to one relationship. For those who refuse to enter a monogamous relationship, they seem to develop a mutual, free but short term relationship with their sexual partners. However monogamy remains a fine line, which means if they choose to enter a long-term and serious relationship, they either become friends without sex or sex exclusive couple. Betrayal is considered the main issue among those who have sex with another person in a one on one relationship. Generally speaking, betrayal is a forbidden behavior UNLESS love and sex are absent among monogamous relationship, and this is the only legitimate and understandable reason for a person who is in a relationship and still have sex with a stranger. It is obvious that monogamy is still an order in lesbian intimacy. The practice of sexual invitation is not only breaks the stereotypes of love-comes-first-then-sex practice by women it also challenges common illusion of one night stand that excludes intimacy or feelings among two people. Disconnection between love and sex indeed brings more possibility of organizing intimacy life, however as Giddens and other concurrent scholars statement suggest modern people have new challenge in intimate life. They should continue to try and experiment in everyday life to construct a more comfortable and satisfying intimate life.