Research on reaction of lose as well as course of accommodation for the one who were passively separated in the breaking-up experience of romance

• Main Authors: Yen-tai Kuo, 郭燕黛
• Other Authors: Ming-Chiu Liu
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/08680686054417465666

碩士 === 國立臺南大學 === 諮商與輔導研究所碩士班(92~95) === 96 === This research goal is to understand the people whose reaction of frustration with consequent accommodation direction after facing separation of love affair and parting with their lovers against individual wish.Four people with experience of involuntary separation were invited as study actors for this research. One quality of analysis method was adopted.The outline of interview was considered as guide of interview, using the manner of deep interview to proceed with collecting and arranging of data.To assay the process, the step for material analyzing on character of studying contents of phenomenology tendency was based on. Furthermore, multiple analysis and discussion were carried out by aiming at separate study actors in mode of inter-case. Gathering the analysis and discussion, the research results in as followings: 1.Anomic response (1)Mood:Certain kinds of the mood respond, respectively, like getting sense of lose, having low tide, feeling pain, being stunned, getting angry, angering furiously, feeling indignant, unbalancing one’s life and so on. (2)Cognition:This includes, one may possibly feel not doing good and reveal insufficiently on caring about the other, also attribute the reason of separation to one’s own side, then expect to back to the past by changing former decision towards opposite side, such as, original self-cognition, of having no sustainability as well as uncomprehending attitude. (3)Behavior: Covering the attempting action for reconciliation, getting moodiness off the chest →weeping constantly , posting/unposting something on the blog, complaining to the friends; switching one’s attention→ putting into work,making new mates, watching TV, listening to the music, etc. (4).Physiology: Involving variation of physical condition,and other changes evolved from sleep and diet. 2.Course of Accommodation (1)The reason of separation would influence on the followed adaptation. (2)The method of accommodation depends on respective individual. Some may suit the way of falling in new romance instantly, but some may not. The method which is suitable for oneself is the best way of accommodation. (3)The course of accommodation is just like an elastic ball, up and down all the time. The fluctuation of our emotion is unavoidable. We may occasionally feel better, and then becoming in bad mood within a while. The cognition renews continuously. Sometimes you just hate him/her, and sometimes you consider why don’t you just be happy since you already broke up with each other. The behavior and physiology will become smooth and steady gradually. One may no longer expect reconciliation. Weeping will be ended. Sleep and diet will return to initial situation. (4)The relatives or friends’ company helps passing through being frustrated in love. In conclusion, this research will be discussed further on the basis of above result of study and recommend the concrete proposal to the future relevant research and the one being passively separated.