The Internal Conflicts of Female College Students with Premarital Sex

• Main Authors: Hsien-Fei Huang, 黃羨斐
• Other Authors: 鄔佩麗
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2000
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/18105896014774328880

碩士 === 國立臺灣師範大學 === 教育心理與輔導研究所 === 88 === The objective of this research is to figure out how female college students nowadays view premarital sex, their experience in dealing with the internal conflicts caused by it, and the process of adjusting themselves to these conflicts. We hope that with what we discovered in this research, the counselors can better understand the conflicts that female college students are encountering when dealing with premarital sex, to help with their future counseling tasks. This research adopted the in-depth interview of the qualitative research method, using a semi-structured interview guidelines to interview the subjects and collect the data. The transcriptions were further studied and analyzed to extract both the common and individual elements in the interviewees'' experiences of internal conflicts. Those elements are finally presented in the thesis as the summary followed: 1. Female college students’ perspectives and attitudes towards premarital sex (1). Content of the perspectives and attitudes towards premarital sex among female college students A. It is very common for college couples to have sex. B. Sexual relationship has both positive and negative effects to a couple relationship. C. Male and female have different perspectives and attitudes towards premarital sex. D. Physical intimacy and psychological intimacy develop simultaneously and influence each other. E. It is acceptable to have sex when an individual with positive sexual attitude has a stable relationship with his partner. F. Having premarital sex is ok for others, but the same rule doesn''t necessarily apply to oneself. (2). Meaning of the perspectives and attitudes towards premarital sex among female college students A. The universality for the premarital sex in college campus B. The double standard in perspectives and attitudes towards premarital sex C. The norm for female character under social expectations D. The stress and longing for positive perspectives towards sex (3). The factors that influence the perspectives and attitudes towards premarital sex among female college students A. Parents'' attitude B. Social expectations C. Peers and friends D. Books and media E. School and relevant courses F. Special experiences associated with sex G. Past counseling experiences H. Past couple relationships I. Clubs and religions J. Other factors (sisters, boyfriend, boyfriend''s family) 2. Content and background of internal conflicts caused by premarital sex (1). Content of internal conflicts caused by premarital sex A. Guilt for having sex B. Worries about other people''s judgement C. Worries about being pregnant D. Inconsistencies between new and old values E. Lack of help F. Other worries (getting hurt physically, getting sexual transmitted diseases, having sex too quickly in a relationship, confusions about the opposite sex, being considered too "easy" by the boyfriend, not to be accepted by future partners) (2). Background of internal conflicts caused by premarital sex A. Incorrect or misleading concepts about sex and relationship since childhood B. Lack of proper sex and relationship education C. Over-dependent relationship D. Not being able to express one''s true feelings in a fast-developing sexual relationship (3). What makes the internal conflicts caused by premarital sex change A. Sharing and supporting from peers B. Accompanying and supporting from the boyfriend C. Counseling 3. Help expected while facing the internal conflicts caused by premarital sex A. Proper guidance B. Somebody to share with C. Change of social expectations D. Good examples set by parents E. Public opinions F. Other perspectives towards sex This thesis goes beyond the above results to provide suggestions to parents, schools, counselors, as well as all the females. Lastly, a few suggestions are also made for future researches, based on what we''ve learned from this research.