| Summary: | 碩士 === 中國文化大學 === 兒童福利研究所 === 86 === The main goal of this qualitative research is to explore the
teenagers'' experiences including thinking, feeling, and coping
strategies when conflicts occurred between their parents and
themselves. In this study, 17 junior high school students were
interviewed for 2 or 3 times.Regarding teenagers'' perception of
their parents, the parenting behavior had such characters as the
followings: (1)Teenagers thought that their parents always stand
for the upper position in the parent-child relationship and
believe "I am the law" and "I am the monarch". However,
teenagers also considered that their parents were willing to
take the responsibilities of highly consideration for their own
children and worried about them based on blood relationship. In
addition, teenagers said the reasons of the conflicts between
their parents and them, was that the parents expected them of
being outstanding and absolutely obedience. (2)When conflicts
occurred, parents'' emotions that were negative, usually were
anxious and irritable. (3)The teenagers mentioned parents
usually used the strategies of "governance and control" to
discipline and educate children, such as direct interfering,
forbidding, supervising, nagging, blaming, threatening, beating,
physical violence, arousing child''s feeling of guilty or
ridiculing.As to the teenagers, their reactions toward parent-
child conflicts were as the followings: (1) When facing conflict
with parents, outwardly, they were angry and acted dislikes.
Inwardly, they felt anxious and depressive. (2)They actually
felt ambivalent as facing parents'' control. On the one hand,
they appreciated parents'' control, because they thought they
were loved by parents if parents govern and control their
behavior. On the other hand, they expected parents can let go
and provide them more opportunities for making decision
independently.In general, they would suppress themselves or
obeyed orders ostensibly to avoid parents'' scolding, punishment,
or for filial piety. Nevertheless, there were three styles of
coping process due to teenagers having different coping concepts
and reactions to various parents'' behavior, These three styles
were "consistently stick on the same way", "standstill while the
other one is changing", and "two both are changed by each
other".
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